It’s the fairy tale we all believe in – connection, completion, love without parting. The merest glimpse of it captures our hearts. But is the fairy tale real? Is there such a thing as endless bliss, unconquered love and a happily ever after?
"Have you ever watched porn? Tick either, yes, no, or I don't understand the question." This was part of a questionnaire we asked the guys in our youth group to fill out a few years ago. Interestingly, everyone ticked “yes”.
This subject is not new to young people in the West today. Softcore porn is on the deodorant adverts, the shampoo adverts, the clothes shops we enter and the billboards we pass on our way to school. Softcore is normal, and therefore nobody looks for it anymore. Hardcore is normal, and that is what people are looking at.
Being culturally relevant is not the same as gradually becoming like the culture around us, until we are unrecognisable from the rest of the world. Being culturally relevant is living a life that much of the rest of society aspires to and hopes for.
Many people would ask me how my Holiday break was and depending on whom it was my answer changed greatly. My answers were one of these three: it was good; it was all right, I worked a lot; or it sucked.
Having been introduced to masturbation at a Christian camp aged 11 by the son of a well known television presenter, my porn story began a year later when I stumbled across a file on a music-sharing programme one Saturday morning.