What the Bible really says about sex

What the Bible really says about sex

We hear a lot of different ideas about God's view on sex... but what does the Bible actually say about it all?

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What would you say to people who have already had sex and feel as if they've sinned in the eyes of God without using the "God forgives all" as your one and only answer?

Comment by Sam |

Hey Tad, thanks for the comment. Take a look at this article I wrote a couple of years back:
What can we touch? - We've gone too far...

God forgives us when we repent, but to repent means to turn 180 degrees back towards God. Even if we slip up again in the future, it's important that, at this point, we turn to Christ and commit again to following Him and walking in His ways. Jesus' response to people was regularly, 'repent and believe'.

Even if you've already had sex, that doesn't mean it's too late to choose to honour God with your body and sexuality. You can choose now to follow Him and to change your ways.

Does that make sense? What do you think?

Sam Follett

Sam Follett

Sam co-founded The Bridge with Charlie back in 2013 with a vision to see young people equipped with good teaching. Sam is a curate at HTB in London. But before that he's been around a bit, he worked for two years with Church Army around the globe andd studied Physics at the University of Nottingham. Sam also enjoys freshly ground coffee and more freshly ground coffee.

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What the Bible really says about sex

There's loads of brilliant content out this week all about sex, but I also wanted to write this short little piece just to explain what the Bible really says about sex and why we hear so many conflicting ideas.

The first thing to say is that we have this habit in the Church of making good things seem really bad. Scripture is a huge advocate for sex - it's something which God created for our enjoyment and, ultimately, for making babies. Genesis 2:24 talks about a man and woman joining together for life and becoming "one flesh". Sex is all part of what makes this a reality. And Song of Songs expresses the joy and excitement around sex, but also shows there is something profound, mysterious and powerful going on. 

While Scripture is very honest and positive about the fact that we are sexual beings, it is also very firm on the correct context for it. The beloved in Song of Songs warns us not to awaken desire too early.

"Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires."

Song of Songs 8:4

Sex is clearly something of great power - the Bible warns, 'don't play with fire'.

In his first letter to the church in Corinth, Paul is writing to a group of people who have been handling sex badly. His suggested solution? If you can't control yourselves, get married so that you're not sinning. Here, Paul is making it clear that marriage is the appropriate context for sex - anything outside of this is not as God intended it.

If marriage is the only appropriate context for sex then anything else is what is called 'sexual immorality' - i.e. sinful sex. And Paul tells us to "flee from sexual immorality" (1 Corinthians 6:18).

This may seem harsh, but Jesus' expectations go far beyond this. In Matthew 5:28, He says that if we even think about having sex outside of marriage we have as good as done it. Jesus demands not just purity in what we do but also what we think.

For more, check out the brilliant blogs we have out this week here.

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Comment by Tad |

What would you say to people who have already had sex and feel as if they've sinned in the eyes of God without using the "God forgives all" as your one and only answer?

Comment by Sam |

Hey Tad, thanks for the comment. Take a look at this article I wrote a couple of years back:
What can we touch? - We've gone too far...

God forgives us when we repent, but to repent means to turn 180 degrees back towards God. Even if we slip up again in the future, it's important that, at this point, we turn to Christ and commit again to following Him and walking in His ways. Jesus' response to people was regularly, 'repent and believe'.

Even if you've already had sex, that doesn't mean it's too late to choose to honour God with your body and sexuality. You can choose now to follow Him and to change your ways.

Does that make sense? What do you think?

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