Comparison Is A Killer
Ephesians 2:10 says we are each a masterpiece created by God and that He has good plans for our lives. But how often do we really believe that? Despite hearing time and time again that we are loved and special to God somehow we find it hard to accept. I confess that sometimes when I hear people say ‘when God made you He threw away the mould’ I think He threw it away because it was rubbish, not because it was perfect and one was enough.
One of the main reasons we don’t believe it is because we constantly compare ourselves to others and COMPARISON KILLS! If you have Facebook, Instagram or something similar open it and have a look at the newsfeed. Mine has a video of my friend doing a sky dive, followed by an advert for a new MacBook laptop. Most of what I see on Facebook is other people sharing how fantastic their lives are or adverts making me feel like I need something new. But how often does what we put on social media reflect our real life? Do we really look like that all the time? Is our life really as exciting as we present; probably not. Whether we use social media or not our culture encourages us to constantly compare ourselves to others around us, but comparison kills.
In Hebrews 12:1 Paul writes “let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us”. Each of us has our own race, we cannot run anyone else’s and no one can run ours for us. Yet we naturally look to the right or the left to see how we measure up to those around us. We trip and stumble because we are looking at others instead of focussing straight ahead.
In a long distance track race you have a staggered start to make up for the different distances each lane has around the corners. At the start of the race it’s easy to look to people ahead of you and automatically feel like you’re going to lose, but they are not running in your lane. Equally you could feel great about yourself by looking to the people behind you, but they aren’t in your lane either.
If we use comparison as a way of measuring how feel about ourselves we will always find people less intelligent, good at sport or pretty to make ourselves feel better. Likewise we can always find people who are more musical, fashionable or popular so that we feel rubbish. One leads to pride the other to poor self-image, both of which are killers.
So stop comparing yourself to others, stop looking to the right or the left but instead run with perseverance the race marked out for you and fix your eyes on Jesus the author and perfecter of our faith, because His is the only opinion that really matters.