The Inbetweeners

The Inbetweeners

How to survive life in sixth form or college. How do we handle this potentially awkward stage of life: stuck between child and 'grown up'?

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Just read this after getting college application results, perfect timing thank you so much.

Laurence James Davis

Laurence James Davis

Laurence is an inner-city minister at the Christian Centre in Nottingham. Holding down weekly meetings with hundreds of young people, he holds it all, in the knowledge that the Gospel preached, saves lives. Laurence has a desire to see people growing into maturity in their faith, whilst remembering the reality of the Holy Spirit's power throughout our journeys with Jesus. He has also been at the forefront of pioneering evangelistic meetings in a night club. Sick. 

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The Inbetweeners

The transition from child to adult is taking place. Personal views are being formed and challenged.

Sixth Form, or College, is a time of transition. There is more freedom than secondary school (goodbye school uniform) but more of an expectation to be self-motivated with work. There is a greater level of independence, but not quite as much as the 'stay out all night' option that you have when you go to Uni.

Put simply, college can be an 'In-between' time.

The transition from child to adult is taking place. Personal views are being formed and challenged. Identity is being both secured and rattled while the continual desire for acceptance can escalate at a rapid pace. 

College can be an 'In-between' time for Christians as well.

Maybe the youth group you once loved suddenly feels a bit 'young'. People of equally strong beliefs are now challenging the beliefs that you grew up with. Church can begin to feel a bit irrelevant. All this while the pressure to attend parties increases, along with it the temptation to experiment with drugs and alcohol and relationships.

This In-between time can lend itself to questions. "Who am I? What do I want to do? Where do I fit? What do I actually believe? Why is it wrong to.....?"

Like any time of transition this In-between stage can be a vulnerable time. Things are less certain, less secure, more unknown.

This In-between time can lend itself to questions. "Who am I? What do I want to do? Where do I fit? What do I actually believe? Why is it wrong to.....?"

For many, post college means university, where the freedom, challenges and temptations only increase. There are so many stories of people who go to uni and don't continue to live out their faith. Too many stories, in fact.

My observation and own experience would be the decisions we make or don't make in the 'In-between' time of college have the most dramatic effect on what happens away at University.

A key to successfully navigating this In-between time may surprise, but I believe it's true and that key is humility.

"He leads the humble in what is right, and teaches the humble his way".

Psalms 25:9

Humility carries with it an openness to be led in what is right.  Pride says: I will be fine, I don't need any help.

Humility carries with it an openness to be led in what is right.  Pride says: I will be fine, I don't need any help. Pride comes before a fall - but the Bible also says that Jesus is able to keep us from falling. However that takes humility.

Humility will lead you to ask for help where you are struggling. Humility will cause you to seek answers for yourself from God when you don't understand something. Humility will cause you not to assume you're the exception to the rule when it comes to being tempted. Humility will cause you to learn from other people's experiences.

It may be hard, but humility will make it easier. It may uncertain, but his grace is sufficient. Humility makes a way for Jesus to do what He can do, what we can't do.

Humility makes a way for Jesus to do what He can do, what we can't do.

Humility isn't something we just happen to 'have' or not have. The Bible instructs us to make a decision to 'humble yourself'.  To live college years outstandingly for Jesus, let's make a choice to walk in humility and keep our hearts sensitive and responsive to His.

So to all the In-betweeners, remember the words from the writer of Hebrews:

"For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathise with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need."

Hebrews 4:15-16

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