Dr Bob Mayo

Bob Mayo

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How far is too far when it comes to relationships? Can we ever do anything more than just kiss before marriage?

Question

How far is too far when it comes to relationships? Can we ever do anything more than just kiss before marriage?

Answer

There are three stages towards getting married. The first stage is romance. The second stage is romance and friendship. The third stage is romance friendship commitment and a sexual relationship. Romance along with insecurity and excitement drive the early exciting stages of a relationship where you are getting to know someone. Romance and friendship is the stage of the relationship where the two of you decide either to get married or to split up. Romance friendship commitment and sex is when the two of you decide before Christ and the church to live together as husband and wife.

The first romance stage of the relationship is too early for anything more than kissing. The final romance friendship and commitment stage is where the sex comes naturally. The middle stage of friendship and romance is the grey area between kissing and full on sex. It is here that the temptation comes and you have to set your boundaries. Don't be pressured by what your friends are doing and don't put pressure on yourself. Deciding not to go the whole way might be the best decision you ever make.

Take time to talk the issue through with your partner. Communicate and find out what you're really ready for. Sex is a God given gift but to go too far too fast is to live outside of the perfectly designed desire that God has for you as His child. The right thing at the wrong time is still the wrong thing.

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